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I know I don't interact on here as much as I should be, but I should explain myself. I have Pervasive Developmental Disorder, a high functional form of autism, and it has been the main stumbling block for me to socialize normally and to try to talk to girls. I don't go out very often, and when I do, I just keep to myself(if going to the 2010 Olympics couldn't help, what will?) I am undergoing counseling at a disability resource center here in Kansas, and I hope they'll help me get on track for self-reliance, which leads me to my next point.

I'm about to become homeless. My mom is kicking me out of our apartment on June 30 (she says that it's time for me to fly) and, and because I do not possess proof of regular income because I don't have a regular job (I did get a job with the casino south of Wichita, but it's only an on-call position and I can't live off an on-call only) I cannot get an apartment or even a roommate. I'm facing the prospect of sleeping in my car or worse from Monday onwards. I hope that I'm not coming off as whining, but I do hope some of you might have ideas or suggestions on how to move forward.

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I know here in Australia there are usually resources available through the Salvation Army - I did a quick google search and it may be worth approaching them as they are a referal agent for the Wichita rapid re-housing program...

http://www.wichita.gov/Government/Departments/Housing/Pages/Homeless.aspx

The benefit is if worse comes to worse it is summer and warm - so the car may be a possible (if not wanted) temporary solution. However use the resources your city offers - there is no shame in asking for help. I grew up in a very cash strapped situation and we depended on the kindness of charity for many meals and even housing at one point. Food banks can help as well. These charities and outreach places are there for this very reason.


http://www.centerofhopeinc.org/

Seems they have a good program as well. Give them a call mate.

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You should definitely try negotiating with your mom, first. If she knows you have autism and have no (stable) job then she should be helping/motivating (maintain a stable income and housing) you rather than kicking you out? Try looking for some homeless shelters nearby and see if you can stay there until you can support yourself (or at least a few months/weeks). If that doesn't work, see if you can afford to stay in a hostel/motel for awhile. Best of luck :unsure:

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Apart from giving sympathy...Are we qualified to give advice here apart from forwarding appropriate social service authority numbers?

This has happened before. And Mods had to step in.

Be careful guys...

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You mentioned that you are doing counselling at a research centre - you could ask them resp. tell them about your situation as soon as possible, since I can imagine that they know what you can do now

I am sorry, too - I hope it works out good! Fingers crossed

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You should definitely try negotiating with your mom, first. If she knows you have autism and have no (stable) job then she should be helping/motivating (maintain a stable income and housing) you rather than kicking you out? Try looking for some homeless shelters nearby and see if you can stay there until you can support yourself (or at least a few months/weeks). If that doesn't work, see if you can afford to stay in a hostel/motel for awhile. Best of luck :unsure:

Maybe she's a deadbeat.

But I think the counselling centre is your best bet to see if they can help you out somehow and get you on the path to back on your feet.

Really sorry to hear about your situation. I hope everything turns out well, and let us know how it goes.

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:lol::lol::lol::lol: So rich!!

^^So helpful.

Change can be hard, but sometimes you have to force yourself to look at the world differently. Leaving home might be just what you need even though you don't feel ready. Sometimes you just have to start looking at options you never thought you'd consider.

How many jobs have you applied for? How many people have you talked to about perhaps staying with them temporarily? You just have to knock on every door you can think of -- even the ones that are less than ideal. Some of those doors will open and little by little things will start coming together. As stressful as the short term may be, just imagine that in a few years time you may be successfully independent and all this could feel like a distant memory. It's an opportunity to grow.

Hang in there and keep working at it.

The worst thing you can do is nothing. Don't let yourself fall into the trap of acting like a victim.

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I have been continuing to apply, but nothing has come up. I've gone to our county's workforce center, and will again soon. I have also been getting counseling and attending a peer support group from an area independent living resource center on how to maintain employment when I get it, and how to interact with other people. All I can say is I don't want to be a homeless bum. I want to be self sufficient and socialize with people more frequently

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I am also having the same problem, having diagnosed with the same condition, And referring to jobs there's none that require experience in my region.

The real thing is, I am still living with my mother, and i have been issued a court warrant to leave her house this Monday unless I show proof of income. Otherwise, I could face life in prison with no right for parole neither appeal. My saving, transport, and all essential forms of living have been confiscated to her under court warrant. Which means that I have nothing to survive, not even for a single minute.

Much worse, I have been also banned from looking sources of income due to "ideological" reasons

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I am also having the same problem, having diagnosed with the same condition, And referring to jobs there's none that require experience in my region.

The real thing is, I am still living with my mother, and i have been issued a court warrant to leave her house this Monday unless I show proof of income. Otherwise, I could face life in prison with no right for parole neither appeal. My saving, transport, and all essential forms of living have been confiscated to her under court warrant. Which means that I have nothing to survive, not even for a single minute.

Much worse, I have been also banned from looking sources of income due to "ideological" reasons

So then is it safe to say that a FIFA World Cup fantasy bid contest would not be the best use of your time right now?

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So then is it safe to say that a FIFA World Cup fantasy bid contest would not be the best use of your time right now?

it's off-topic, man!

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I know what its like suffering with mental illness. Lucky for me, I've always had Family support. I could advice you for managing your illness, but I don't know what its like to be alone as my Family have always been there for me. I suggest seeking advice from a Psychologist. Its helped me alot with my OCD and Tourettes.

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My 93 year old grandmother just died this evening in Moundridge. My uncle, sister, Mom and I were there at her bedside as she passed away. It's going to take a long time to recover from this loss; Tina was one of the most generous, loving and caring people you coud ever know, All the fun we had at her house, all the KU basketball games we went to, and producing two of the most caring people I'm fortunate to know: my uncle and my Mom.
Goodbye, Tina. Thank you. And Rock Chalk.

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You have my heartfelt condolences. I wish there was something I could say that ease your grief. It's something of a cliche to tell you that time will heal. It will, but that doesn't ease the pain right now. i think you've done well to come here and write about it - acknowledging your feelings and sharing them are a very healthy way to try and cope. Hang in there and continue to remember her fondly. It's your memories that will keep her still there with you always.

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